Could you be a free-range parent?
As far as parenting style goes, this one's a bit of an acquired taste...
Free-range parenting is a philosophy (some say trend) that encourages children to have more independence and autonomy in their daily lives, such as walking to school alone or playing outside without supervision. The term “free-range parenting” was popularised by Lenore Skenazy, a New York City mom who made headlines in 2008 when she let her nine-year-old son ride the subway alone.
What’s it about?
If you’ve heard of “helicopter parents”, you’ll know that free-range parenting is its direct response. In contrast to helicopter parents who are overprotective, free-range parents are looser with rules, flexible with freedom and aim to foster resilience, confidence and creativity in children with this type of parenting.
Some of these liberties typically extend to allowing older kids to stay home alone, decide on their own curfews or allowing children to mete out their own ideas on discipline. Some children get to choose their own clothes, prepare their own meals (or choose what they’d like to eat), or decide on their own bedtime.
Naturally, not everyone is a fan of this type of parenting and critics argue that this controversial approach can place children in dangerous situations and neglect their need for guidance and protection.
On the other hand, some studies have shown that free-range parenting can have positive effects on children's wellbeing and development. These include increased physical activity, better social skills and improved self-esteem. Still, there are negative effects with which to contend, including obvious concerns around unsafe situations and risky behaviour.
Good to know
Free-range parenting is not about neglecting children or abandoning them to their own devices. Parents should find a balance between independence and supervision and allow children to take age-appropriate risks and learn from their experiences.
Understandably, parenting is a demanding job and you’re always on the clock. Critics of free-range parenting point out that some parents may abuse the notion to be completely hands-off and allow children complete free reign.
If you choose to adopt this parenting style, examine your reasons for doing so. Is it to alleviate pressure from your daily demands? Is it a way to avoid disciplining a rambunctious child?
It goes without saying that free-range parenting isn't for every family dynamic. It depends on factors like your child's age, maturity level, neighbourhood safety, and parental comfort level. Could you do it and should you do it? It's a wholly personal decision. Suffice to say: don't jump on the bandwagon for the trend factor. Make the best choice based on your personal parenting values and beliefs.
References:
- https://www.verywellfamily.com/what-is-free-range-parenting-1095057
- https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2021/aug/16/let-them-be-kids-is-free-range-parenting-the-key-to-healthier-happier-children
- https://psychcentral.com/blog/do-kids-have-too-much-freedom
- https://slate.com/human-interest/2023/01/free-range-parenting-dad-neighborhood-mischief-too-far.html
Disclaimer
This article is for informational purposes only. Always check with your doctor or medical practitioner about any health concerns, before embarking on any fitness or nutrition programme, or using any medication.