Mindful parenting for the year ahead
Imagine your child gets home from school very upset. Instead of bombarding her with questions, you sit quietly with her, offering a supportive presence. Eventually, your child may open up about the challenging day, and together you can find ways to address the difficulties.
This is called mindful parenting. It’s focused on remaining present and engaged with your child throughout your relationship, frustrations and hardships.
Here’s how to learn the ropes.
How can you practise mindful parenting?
Mindful parenting is about being fully present with your kids, ditching distractions and focusing on the now. It provides a judgement-free, compassionate space where you observe your thoughts and your child’s actions without labelling any behaviour as outright good or bad.
This type of parenting could look like taking the time to pause and assess your child’s behaviour before responding with yelling or punishing them. It’s about taking a deliberate “wait a minute” to think before you react or discipline your child.
It may not be everyone’s cup of parenting tea, but mindfulness can be beneficial as it can encourage connection and empathy between parent and child.
Some ways to practise mindful parenting:
- Breathe mindfully. Take deep breaths to stay calm and present in frustrating situations. This can help regulate your emotions.
- Practise active listening. This could look like giving your child your full attention without interrupting or offering solutions immediately.
- Choose intentional responses, for example, taking a minute to choose the best course of action during a situation based on your child’s perspective and needs.
- Set aside time to regularly connect with your child. This could be during playtime, reading with them at bedtime, or having a snack together after school.
- Recognise that both you and your child are imperfect and make mistakes, which creates a more forgiving and supportive home.
What about discipline?
While discipline is necessary, mindful parenting focuses on teaching rather than punishing. Instead of being reactive, take a moment to understand the reasons behind your child's behaviour. Encourage them to share their feelings and work together to find solutions.
Mindful parenting isn't just about what you say though, it's about how you act, too. Kids pick up on the behaviour they see, so when you practise mindfulness, you’re showcasing emotional control, good communication, and better problem-solving skills.
Does it work for kids?
Parenting is a job for life, and mindful parenting is an ongoing journey that evolves with time. And while it’s a journey that has its twists and turns, there are ways you can do your best to remain as grounded as possible. Children raised by mindful parents often show healthy emotional development, enhanced social skills and mood regulation, as well as a greater sense of security.
Remember, it’s a marathon, not a sprint. Your parenting approach and style may have to evolve over time, so it’s always worth exploring different ways to nurture your children and provide the healthiest environment for their growth.
Disclaimer
This article is for informational purposes only. Always check with your doctor or medical practitioner about any health concerns, before embarking on any fitness or nutrition programme, or using any medication.